Russia wants freeze all adoptions from America until there can be a intergovernmental agreement signed on adoptions. The foreign Minister Sergei Lavrov said that the agreement should also include the conditions under which the Russian authorities can allow and set the obligations of the adoptive parents.
All of this comes after a American women, Torry Hansen of Shelbyville, adopted a 7year old boy, Artyom Savelyev who she named Justin, last September put him on a plane alone and sent him back with a note:
I refuse him … This child is mentally unstable. He is violent and has severe psychopathic issues, …. I was lied to and misled by the Russian orphanage regarding his mental stability, … After giving my best to this child, I am sorry to say that for the safety of my family, friends, and myself, I no longer wish to parent this child
Russian President Dmitry Medvedev has called the actions of the mother monstrous for basically throwing the boy away that she should have seen as her son.
It is a monstrous deed on the part of his adoptive parents, to take the kid and virtually throw him out with the air plane in the opposite direction and to say, ‘I’m sorry I could not cope with it, take everything back’ is not only immoral but also against the law,
Torry Hansen’s mother talked to the press saying that the boy frightened them and made them fear for their lives after he drew a picture of their house burning down with them in it. She also claimed the boy was increasingly violent. A social worker sent there in January to check up on the families progress and found they where coping well. Torry gave up after only six months, instead of contacting someone for help she just sent him back alone.
This has come at a time after two deaths of Russian children adopted by American citizens and has just reinforced their perception that Americans adopt Russian children like people who adopt a puppy over Christmas from a shelter not realising what they are taking on.
This is a result of the glorifying of adoptions in America, they think they can adopt a child then expect him/her to be like a ‘normal’ child. Most of these children come from orphanages and live in a completely different world and some has been traumatized at some point. As pointed out by LaBarbera who specializes in the psychological evaluation of children. She has worked with many Russian children adopted by families from other foreign countries.
Parents enter into it (foreign adoption) with positive motivations but, in a sense, they are a little bit blind sided by their desire to adopt, ….. They’re not prepared to appreciate, psychologically, the kinds of conditions these kids have been exposed to and the effect it has had on them.
It is not always the case there are many thousands of children who end up with families that truly appreciate where they come from and have the patience and resources to cope when the child acts out, as all children do.
The boy has opened up and has revealed that his ‘mother’ put sweets and colouring pens in his rucksack and told him he was going on a excursion. Apparently the day he received a family and was told he was moving to America was the happiest day of his life and he can’t understand why he was sent back.